Designing how leaders lead
and how teams talk.

A precious and special chance to meet your “True Self”

As someone who introduced “inner child therapy” and “Imago relationship therapy” to Korea and has walked the path of healing with so many people, I am certain this book will be “a truly precious gift that clearly shows what beautiful fruit one person's deep growth and change can bear.”

The voice the author calls “the devil's whisper” may be the sad cry of the “wounded inner childThe Wounded Inner Child” still weeping inside us. In this book, the author never turns away from that sad voice; instead she embraces it with real warmth, and shows us a courageous journey of completing her own gentle yet firm “Mental Design.”

We all live with wounds of the heart, large and small. Facing stress at work, conflict in relationships and unexpected turns in life, we often feel powerless. Through this book the author reminds us that even these difficulties can help us rediscover our inner strength and become a precious, special chance to meet our “True SelfTrue Self.”

The book's idea of “Mental Design” shows that we are not simply stuck in past wounds, but special beings who can actively design and create our own mental health.

I hope everyone who reads this book will warmly embrace their own “wounded inner child” and build an inner strength that stays unshaken through any hardship. When one person's inner world heals and grows, I see every relationship around that person change beautifully too. Each of us is a precious, special being, worthy of love.

Oh Je-eun, President, Daybreak University, Southern California

The author's understanding of the mind works as a “wise blueprint”

It has been 20 years since I founded my film company. By now I ought to know something about making films, yet every time a film opens I hope for a good result, and it never goes as planned, so it is always hard. Each time, as the saying goes, “my mental strength melted down and drained away.” This year was especially hard. That was when I read this book.

Before reading it, I thought of my mental strength only as “not strong, but not weak either.” In a word, I knew nothing. But reading this book changed my perspective, and I had the strange experience of my noisy inner issues disappearing. Mental strength is neither strong nor weak. Just as we have strong friends and gentle friends, it would be nice to have only friends who are always strong, impressive and worth showing off, but what is wrong with a friend who is shy, weak and hesitant? My mind is my friend. Understanding, down to the scientific principles, how that friend becomes a teammate I can never part with brought tears to my eyes.

“Ah, so that's why it happened back then.”
“From now on, I want to try it this way!”
“So this is how I can do it!”
“My mind, the teammate I'll live with my whole life, can change as much as I like depending on the courage and attitude I choose!”

The author's understanding and application of the mind, earned through 20 years of hands-on experience in the field, serves us as a “wise blueprint.” Trust this blueprint and follow it calmly, and like me you will experience a “eureka moment of finding a new mind, different from before.”

Kang Hye-jeong, CEO, Filmmaker R&K

The language of a companion who restores who we are

Having watched Coach Juri Lim up close as a fellow coach for over 20 years, I am convinced she is not an expert who “fixes” people but a companion who “restores” who they are. This book does not blame the wounds inside us; it hands us the courage to redesign them.

Her sentences are not a manual for rewriting your life but a warm companion that embraces who you are. While reading this book, I let go of the old belief that “I am loved only when I am perfect,” and experienced a moment of embracing my imperfect self.

And so, as I read, I realized that the devil's whisper is no longer something to fear but a signal of growth. When the weight of life shakes you, this book holds you up with the most powerful comfort of all: “You are already enough.”

Coach Lim's field wisdom, which has healed countless lives with sincerity and love, will let each reader experience coaching that helps them stand as the designer of their own life. If you are looking for a turning point in your life right now, this book is a companion you should keep close.

Paul Jeong, Dr. Paul Jeong, ICF MCC & IAC MMC

How to become the lead in the play of your life

Life is often compared to a play. Like the four elements of theater (actor, audience, script and stage), each of us is an actor performing our own script on the stage of daily life, before an audience of the people around us.

Some people become the devil and get in the way of others' success. Others fall for those whispers, give up and despair. Because of childhood experiences, Coach Juri Lim also came to carry the script “You have to be perfect” and “Try harder.” So although she helped others succeed and change for 20 years as a relationship expert, she herself could not find the courage to write a book, “because she was afraid of failing.”

Then one day, she saw a note her daughter had written and decided to change. Instead of her old script, she took on a new role: “It's fine if it isn't perfect” and “If something's missing, I can fix it in a revised edition.” Coach Lim describes this as discarding the old OS and updating to a new OS. People repeat the same mistakes not because of weak willpower but because their “mental OS” no longer fits the here and now. Through this book, we can be reborn as solid mental designers who are no longer misled by past wounds and setbacks. I strongly recommend it to anyone shaken by the devil's whisper: “Why not just live the way you always have?”

Kang Rae-kyung, President, Korea Instructors Association

A book like a warm hand held out to those who have lost heart

I have long remembered Coach Juri Lim, who at the Pureumi Education Institute was known by her community nickname and who raised her children in the Pureumi spirit. She always met her children's eyes and took to heart the joys and pains, the growth and wavering, of being a parent. Those years have built up, layer on layer, and now reach many parents and others as a voice of comfort and courage.

This book is a record of her life, her confessions and her healing. The anxiety that comes with raising children, the conflicts in our relationships, the harsh words we throw at ourselves… even in these moments everyone goes through, the devil's whisper shakes us. But Coach Lim shows how not to be swayed by that whisper and how to build her own mind on firm ground.

As you read, the tears and laughter she has shared as a mother and as a coach come through just as they are. Rather than grand theory, warm everyday stories; rather than sweeping answers, small signposts shaped by life itself wrap around us.

I believe this book is not just a psychology book but a warm hand held out to those who have lost heart. When we are shaken and worn out, this book will give us the courage to believe in ourselves again and design our lives anew.

Choi Hee-soo, Honorary Director, Pureumi Education Institute